There are many reasons we as adults may need to move in with our children. Maybe you will need to move in permanently, or maybe you just need to save some money. Whatever the reason, if done right, it can be a joyous time in your life. There are a few rules you will need to learn and memorize but it will be worth it.
Tips for Peaceful Co-habitation
- Take the time to learn the house rules. Always respect the people whose home you are living in. Whatever the rule is, you should follow it.
- Decide approximately how long you will need to live there. Tell your children what date you are aiming for and then try to be moved or moving out when that date approaches.
- Keep open communication. If you are upset about something, tell your children immediately. Keeping it in will only make for a great fireworks show later. Do yourself and your children a big favor and take care of any problems right away.
- If you are able, clean up after yourself. If you see something that needs cleaning, clean it. This will help your children out tremendously.
- Always try to remember that this change is not only hard on you, but your children are trying to make this transition too and it’s not any easier for them than it is for you.
- Offer anything you can financially to your children. They may not want to accept it but this will let them know you are willing to help all you can.
- Spend as much time with them as possible; if that is something they want. It’s really important they know you appreciate what they are doing for you.
- Try to keep your daily routine as normal as possible without bothering them because of it. This one is important to help you feel more comfortable. You may have to tweak your schedule a bit but it will be worth it in the long run.
- Set yourself some goals to reach while you are there and really try and reach them. This is another one that is important for you.
- Finally, always remember they are not your babies anymore. You may feel like they will always be your babies but they are adults and want to be treated as such. Your children know you love them. Show them you respect them also.
In the end, you should always treat people the way you would want to be treated. If you do, hopefully your stay with your children can be more pleasant than not.